"You're blog isn't sh** and no one reads anyway!" It's funny how those words were said regarding the original blog that was created before womenempowertoday.com evolved. This was roughly about 3 years years ago and it's as if it happened yesterday. Those words resonated, they actually really HURT! But that was the push that was needed to actually see if someone is actually reading the blog. Sooo guess what came to mind??! Pull receipts and run stats!! Andddddd what a surprise the blog had been viewed in about 45 countries in one year. Then the personalized emails and thank you's starting pouring along with asking for help. Since the original blog was created 4.5 years ago so much has happened from name change, to crashed websites, to loosing all the content and then starting over but one thing is for sure perseverance! To all fellow bloggers do NOT give up! A huge shout out to the person who stated that the blog wasn't worth anything - without struggle there is no progress! Instead of showing hate to each other let's join forces and show love! Check out some blogs that help to empower women:
Can I have a side chick with that burger?? Ladies although it seems we live in era where the side chicks are winning and getting rings or what not don't be fooled. Imagine living with that deep heart wrenching insecurity that you will be left for someone else. Imagine deep down inside at some point feeling guilty and think karma is going to come any minute now. Imagine being beautiful outside but deep down living miserable and insecure. Yes side chicks for some reason are getting paid and praised but let's not look up to these type of women.
Pregnancy a very special chapter in life for a woman. A chapter in which she should enjoy her glow, her time, her memories. Pregnancy is also when a woman is most vulnerable and emotional. Her reactions may come from emotions and all she would like to do is be happy and look forward to motherhood. Unfortunately for some women it's a negative and painful experience due to her abuser being violent with her. Pregnancy can be a trigger to domestic violence because abusers take advantage of her vulnerable state. It is roughly estimated that a third of domestic violence cases begin during pregnancy. (babycentre.co.uk) If abuse already occurred previous to pregnancy it only worsens during pregnancy.
We are so connected yet so disconnected in the type of society we live in. Technology has made everyone post their every move and creating a facade for the public eye. Very few people post the reality of a situation. Not too many people are posting raw photos of real life situations. Normally a post will be a pretend to have a good life or a good time. Reality is how many people are really happy? How many people really need help out of a situation? How many women are in abusive relationships but according to their social media account they are "living life?!" The way media and social media portrays violence it's still a bit of a taboo.
"Based on my old facebeook no one would have known that I was in an abusive relationship. We looked like a happy family. Yet there were times I begged for his attention while he told me how boring I was. He met someone else online and denied my existence. While I posted pictures of our "happy family." Don't ever fall for the social media mess its all a fluke." -Survivor-
The land of the "free." The land of opportunity. The country in which one can pursue and reach any dream. This is also the land of business. Everything seems to be a business transaction and not a humanity transaction in sight in Corporate America. A place where a catastrophic event is considered a house fire or losing a house to a storm. Losing your marriage, dignity, self worth, children, job due to domestic violence isn't considered a catastrophic event. Domestic violence costs the U.S. $8.3 billion a year. (caepv.org) This cost is for lost wages, medical expenses, and mental health services. Everything is a business but what is everyone's business is that domestic violence affects everyone. Everyone is so caught up in making a profit and losing sight that humans are very much affected by domestic violence yet its still kept hushed. What company is going to pay for a domestic violence seminar? One that cares but also one that can afford to pay for it. Budget cuts automatically affect seminars such as these. It is key that all aspects of the community shed light on domestic violence.
That moment in which you are humiliated by someone that should be helping you not knocking you while you are down. A Seminole County FL judge decided to humiliate an abused woman for not showing up to her court date. She sentenced her to three days in jail for not showing up to court to testify against her abusive husband. How can a woman look at another woman and not care for her well being as she begged stating she was already homeless and she had a 1 year old child. The judge didn't seem to care all she was concerned with was the victim not showing up to her court date. This judge victimized, humiliated, antagonized her in front of everyone. The judicial system has so many broken systems but this one takes the cake. This judge clearly was inhumane for such a decision. What if her abusive husband told her if she testifies she will be killed? What if one of his family members threatened her life? These are things that the judge didn't think about before when she was sentencing her.
One person. It just takes one person to try to break your confidence. That person can try to break down a lifetime of self worth. That same person can try to bring you up but drop you even faster. Why give another person power over what they think is attractive or good enough?! There are over 7 billion people on this planet and all it takes is one to try to bring you down. Well listen here ladies don't allow that bull crap from anyone. Don't let a man, magazine, model, celebrity etc. tell you what you should look like.
Why is it that us women tend to settle for the person that doesn't make us feel like we are enough? We put up with the torment, negativity, and drama knowing we are so much better then our situation. We are the most selfless creatures on earth yet still end up hurting. We hurt because we settle for the person that isn't worth a text yet we give them marriage. There's no other way of putting it then loving yourself more then the person that is there to try to ruin you. We sometimes invite the devil himself to join us by entertaining the idea of what "could be" yet don't realize he's actually the devil.