Let's just get straight to the point on this one....In lieu of DV awareness let's address the abusers that like to deny they are abusive. This is a letter from all of those that have endured abuse and have not received the proper justice! This is for those that like to LIE and DENY the fact that they are or have ever been abusive! This is for those we have lost due to domestic violence and the abusers still have the nerve to put excuses or plead not guilty.
Ladies we have a tendency to give our all and have wishful thinking that Mr. Wrong will change. We also have a habit of thinking we can change Mr. Wrong. We then really hold on if there are kids involved because we don’t want to raise them in a “broken” home. We compromise our self worth, time, energy, lack of appreciation all for the wrong person and then we become guarded. That trauma leads to us putting up a wall and it becomes nearly impossible for anyone to break that wall down. But why don’t we just turn that negative experience into a positive?! Here are some pointers how:
Trauma! Not drama but trauma let’s talk about it. We always talk about the things to avoid, red flags, and toxicity but let’s talk about the aftermath of trauma. How do we survive trauma? How do we heal from pain that isn’t our fault? How do we live a life after dealing with a traumatic experience?
The internet feels that the word 'toxic' has been an overused term. People are trying to become more self aware and genuinely don't want any toxic people in their lives. No toxic relationships, no time for toxic friendships, and no toxic work environments. Not sure how its an overused term when in reality people are now becoming more aware or as some would say "woke." What is the issue with actually addressing toxicity?!
Gut wrenching! There is no other way to describe this letter that a 7-year old boy living in a domestic violence shelter with his mother has written. This 7-year old boy could have been my son had I decided to stay in an abusive relationship. Children see, feel, and experience domestic violence in their homes a lot more than people may think. His letter has gone viral and just at 7-years old he has impacted and touched the lives of many. He is courageous for expressing himself to 'Santa' the way he did. It is also interesting to see the items he asked for, he didn't ask for anything major did he?!
Ahh there is nothing like calling up your best friend and telling her the latest tea! Having a sister from another mister is pretty awesome it's like the sister that you were able to select yourself. Some best friends last a season and others last a lifetime whichever the case it's someone that knows either most or all of your life. Imagine being inseparable but a Mr. comes into her picture and things start to change. When things begin to get serious your bestie is spending less time with you and more time with her beau. Whether you have someone in your life or not things do change. But what if you are just not that into the guy that your best friend is dating?! Here are a few tips on how to handle not being a huge fan of your best friends boo.
“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.” (Unknown) We all know we have the same 24 hours as Queen Bee, but do we have her confidence?! Confidence isn’t something that comes easy but imagine that feeling of being free. Confidence is liberating from what anyone has to say. Your glow is completely different when your self reassurance is at 100!
Ah the cute beginning stages where everything is rose colored and he couldn't be more "perfect" of a person. During this getting to know each other phase everything is phenomenal. From the endless conversations to going on dates left and right. Then there is a certain "image" that is created of this person. This image doesn't show the persons flaws. Some of the red flags that a woman should be looking out for are missed in this googly eyed stage. Here are some red flags to look out for.
"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--It is: Try to please everybody." - Herbert Bayard Swope Do you find yourself being one of the only ones in your group of friends that is growing and evolving in all aspects of life? Some people don't have their priorities in order and others are just lost souls trying to find their passion in life.Then there are those that just never find their purpose and continue to live in the rat race. Hopefully you are the person that is growing and pursuing your dreams. So what do you do when you are the only one making power moves?
"Flattery makes friends and truth makes enemies." It is funny when speaking your truth some may turn against you or people will deny the harm they have done. As soon as you level up and free yourself from the toxicity and negativity there is always a demon that will try to destroy your peace. Those that try to shake your core in the most hateful, insecure, warlike manner are the ones you should not waste too much energy on. Here are five ways to coping with speaking your truth: