don't drink the poison...

Ladies we have a tendency to give our all and have wishful thinking that Mr. Wrong will change. We also have a habit of thinking we can change Mr. Wrong. We then really hold on if there are kids involved because we don’t want to raise them in a “broken” home. We compromise our self worth, time, energy, lack of appreciation all for the wrong person and then we become guarded. That trauma leads to us putting up a wall and it becomes nearly impossible for anyone to break that wall down. But why don’t we just turn that negative experience into a positive?! Here are some pointers how:

• Spirituality. Seek God. When you build that relationship with God that unbreakable bond is like no other. When you put him first all of your other relationships will fall into place. You will also realize that you don’t owe any man anything and the right one will appreciate you and actually show it. But remember you have to trust Gods timing not your own. 

• Imagine what you would do for Mr. Right. If you’ve gone sooooo hard for Mr. Wrong imagine what you would do for the right man. You would be an unstoppable fearless woman and he would treat you as your partner. Look to the future and how much stronger you’ve become because of Mr. Wrong yet the victory would be that much sweeter because the right one will be by your side. 

• Single time = focus time. Focus on your goals, create that vision board, go on that trip you’ve been wanting to go on. Focus on you. It can be draining being with someone that doesn’t appreciate you so now enjoy some YOU time! Cherish the moments that you are alone. If you’re a single mommy then we know it’s almost impossible to have YOU time but try really hard to find it even if it’s a spa day while the kiddos are at school. 

• Time = time to heal. Give yourself time for you and your heart to heal. Embrace this time for self love, shifting your focus, and getting back on track in all aspects of life.

This is your time to shine...GO FOR IT!