Have you ever been the outsider looking into a relationship that may be off? It could be a friend or someone you don't even know and all you say to yourself is "damn girl you could do better." This isn't about physical attraction but when a woman doesn't see her worth because she is so blindsided by "love." Let's face it many of us have been in that position of settling knowing we are stooping low. It's one of those situations where everyone else can see it except for you. If you do see it you think you can "upgrade" him or accept him for who he is. But at what point do we balance our self worth and being a ride or die?!
Ladies first and foremost be a ride or die for yourself!! You need to be your own everything before giving your all to someone else. It's a common mistake due to our nurturing nature to go all in not realizing that person isn't riding for you. It's also a mistake we make of not knowing to love ourselves first before loving someone else. No one is perfect and building together is great but someone shouldn't be pulling you down while you're trying to move up.
Looking back at your younger self can you say man I could've gone without that relationship?! I'm sure many of us can answer that question with a heck yeah! It is what it is and it's only a learning experience. Those learning experiences shouldn't happen time after time because after an experience like that our self worth should come first. Self love should come first. Some may see you as a b**** but that's fine because that's just intimidating to a weak man. It's better to be intimidating to a weak man than to be weak for a man that doesn't deserve you.