As a domestic violence advocate and blogger I wanted to share a little piece of my story. Before I even married the person who abused me throughout my pregnancy I had 2 red flags. The very first argument we had was when he broke my flat iron. He was so angry he threw it across the room and it broke. I was so devastated because I knew that was wrong of him. How dare he break something I spent my hard earned money. He immediately apologized and told me he would buy me a new one. Welp that never happened. But that was my very first red flag and I refused to see it as a red flag at the time.
We continued to date and the second red flag in which I also completely ignored was when he grabbed me and pushed me against the car. His mother witnessed it and she brought me inside while he had to sleep in the car that night. That argument was a few weeks before getting married. I had a gut feeling in which I even told him I don’t think we think we should be doing this. I will never forget I was riding the train back to NYC after a weekend visit from going to see him in CT. I honestly told him I don’t want to do this in which he sternly told me we are getting married.
I wanted to share this little piece of information because things could’ve turned out completely different if I would’ve paid attention to the red flags. Do I blame myself for the abuse?! No!! But I do take responsibility for being blinded to red flags in which I knew better but refused to see them. It’s important to pay attention because if I would’ve taken a closer look at that moment when my flat iron went flying across the room life would be different. Since then I am happily divorced and created a platform to empower women to be free of domestic violence.