Who doesn’t love a discount? You go to the store and say ooohh this shirt is on sale for 50% off I’m going to get it. For the makeup lovers they love to get a sale on high end makeup. For those in general who just love a bargain, it’s a good pick me up to get it on “sale” instead of paying full price for it. But there are some items that women don’t care how much it costs they will still get it no matter what the cost is. Ladies why aren’t we like that with our own value?
Excuses. Protection. Guilt. These are some of the simple words that describe what someone in an abusive relationship does. Excuses are made for their abusers behavior. "He had a rough day." Protection and excuses go hand in hand. "He's a great dad, he would never harm his kids." A sense of guilt is there because the abuser has made it clear that everything is the victims fault. The victim no matter what tries to make it all better. She will avoid certain things not to "trigger" him. The walking on eggshells happens more and more frequently. Verbal abuse escalates to physical abuse. Hiding scars becomes the new norm. Most of the time she has "I can fix this/him syndrome."
In a world full of frauds be an authentic! Society has made it so easy to be "fake happy" or if it wasn't posted online it never happened. Not everything needs to be put out there. It's ok to have privacy and do things that the world doesn't need to see. Seeking for validation...from who? For what? The number of likes doesn't make you a better a person. It's ok to do you without having to worry about who likes what you're doing or who doesn't like what you're doing. Everyone has highs and lows in life that's part of life but it doesn't all need to be put on front street.
There’s a voice inside of you that from time to time may tear you apart. Sometimes it tears you apart more often than not. It’s the voice of insecurity, the voice of self doubt, even the voice of self hatred. It’s also that voice of confirmation of all the negative things that those around you have told you; and you begin to “confirm” them for yourself because you start believing them. Ever look at yourself in the mirror and have told yourself any of the following?
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies....why do we try to sabotage each other??? Why even look at the next girl and not compliment her? Instead of competing why can’t we join forces?? Society already has us against each other. Competing in all aspects of life but the funny thing is what’s for you could NEVER be taken away from you. So in reality there is no need to hate, compete, or tear the next woman down!
Another year is ending and the goals, checklists, bucketlists are endless. The New Years resolutions are flooding your mind some realistic and others not so realistic. The not so realistic ones can be realistic with enough discipline because nothing is impossible but many just don't put in the work. There will always be something that can possibly stop us but that's not an excuse. Ladies we must stop putting the excuses and let's get to work!
As the holiday season approaches and then Valentine's Day in February the pressure is on! Questions like when are you going to get married? Or when will you have a child? Or when will you have another one? Seeing family and friends during the holidays is great, you get to catch up and reminisce on old times but there are some topics that shouldn't be spoken about during the holidays! Whether you're single or in a relationship the pressures of society/family just pile up as you get older. So it's ok to brush those typical questions off.
Have you ever been the outsider looking into a relationship that may be off? It could be a friend or someone you don't even know and all you say to yourself is "damn girl you could do better." This isn't about physical attraction but when a woman doesn't see her worth because she is so blindsided by "love." Let's face it many of us have been in that position of settling knowing we are stooping low. It's one of those situations where everyone else can see it except for you. If you do see it you think you can "upgrade" him or accept him for who he is. But at what point do we balance our self worth and being a ride or die?!
How dare a woman speak up for herself?! How dare she speak up on sexual harassment in the workplace? Women have been silenced for centuries. Silenced in their home for years, then they have the ability to go to the workforce and then silenced there as well. How is it still possible that a woman can't defend herself in the workplace by someone who has sexually harassed her? There are lengthy sexual harassment policies yet there are still million dollar sexual harassment lawsuits. But these settlements are supposed to make it all go away and make the victim SHUT UP!!
"You're blog isn't sh** and no one reads anyway!" It's funny how those words were said regarding the original blog that was created before womenempowertoday.com evolved. This was roughly about 3 years years ago and it's as if it happened yesterday. Those words resonated, they actually really HURT! But that was the push that was needed to actually see if someone is actually reading the blog. Sooo guess what came to mind??! Pull receipts and run stats!! Andddddd what a surprise the blog had been viewed in about 45 countries in one year. Then the personalized emails and thank you's starting pouring along with asking for help. Since the original blog was created 4.5 years ago so much has happened from name change, to crashed websites, to loosing all the content and then starting over but one thing is for sure perseverance! To all fellow bloggers do NOT give up! A huge shout out to the person who stated that the blog wasn't worth anything - without struggle there is no progress! Instead of showing hate to each other let's join forces and show love! Check out some blogs that help to empower women: