The battle between you and your thoughts. They say the mind is a powerful thing and it can be persuasive, strong, yet vulnerable. The importance of mental health is crucial. Mental health is sometimes not taken as seriously as it should. It can take a series of events or just one traumatic event to affect the state of mind. Regardless of the matter it’s something that NEEDS to be addressed. It’s needs to be spoken about. Let’s stop making it a taboo to speak about mental health.
Ever tell a friend you’re going through something and their response is dull? Or their response was something about them to make your situation look better?! Have you ever been around certain people/friends/family and you’re talking to them about some of your goals and you just sense the low key hate?! Just when you thought those that are supposed to be in your corner really aren’t and you find this out the hard way. Ladies stick to people that are rooting for you and are supportive.
It begins with the romantic, sweet, caring ways. Beautiful future plans and how life will be perfect together. No one can compare. Spending endless amount of time together. The ultimate relationship goals. But is it really “relationship goals” when abuse, cheating, and deceiving behavior is involved?? Is it something to look forward to when the relationship is toxic?! Toxic relationships can kill a person mentally, emotionally and even literally. The unhealthiness is visible.
Whether you love or hate her she says the craziest, realist, funniest things. Many have emphasized on some lyrics where she states “I gave you more than I give myself. So loyal to you that I betray myself.” Cardi B saying that in one of her songs, hit home for many women. It’s a downfall that many women have lived where they have given their all to the wrong person. Those women that have been in domestic violence relationships know this line right here could do something to the soul.
Who doesn’t love a discount? You go to the store and say ooohh this shirt is on sale for 50% off I’m going to get it. For the makeup lovers they love to get a sale on high end makeup. For those in general who just love a bargain, it’s a good pick me up to get it on “sale” instead of paying full price for it. But there are some items that women don’t care how much it costs they will still get it no matter what the cost is. Ladies why aren’t we like that with our own value?
Excuses. Protection. Guilt. These are some of the simple words that describe what someone in an abusive relationship does. Excuses are made for their abusers behavior. "He had a rough day." Protection and excuses go hand in hand. "He's a great dad, he would never harm his kids." A sense of guilt is there because the abuser has made it clear that everything is the victims fault. The victim no matter what tries to make it all better. She will avoid certain things not to "trigger" him. The walking on eggshells happens more and more frequently. Verbal abuse escalates to physical abuse. Hiding scars becomes the new norm. Most of the time she has "I can fix this/him syndrome."
In a world full of frauds be an authentic! Society has made it so easy to be "fake happy" or if it wasn't posted online it never happened. Not everything needs to be put out there. It's ok to have privacy and do things that the world doesn't need to see. Seeking for validation...from who? For what? The number of likes doesn't make you a better a person. It's ok to do you without having to worry about who likes what you're doing or who doesn't like what you're doing. Everyone has highs and lows in life that's part of life but it doesn't all need to be put on front street.
There’s a voice inside of you that from time to time may tear you apart. Sometimes it tears you apart more often than not. It’s the voice of insecurity, the voice of self doubt, even the voice of self hatred. It’s also that voice of confirmation of all the negative things that those around you have told you; and you begin to “confirm” them for yourself because you start believing them. Ever look at yourself in the mirror and have told yourself any of the following?
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies....why do we try to sabotage each other??? Why even look at the next girl and not compliment her? Instead of competing why can’t we join forces?? Society already has us against each other. Competing in all aspects of life but the funny thing is what’s for you could NEVER be taken away from you. So in reality there is no need to hate, compete, or tear the next woman down!
Another year is ending and the goals, checklists, bucketlists are endless. The New Years resolutions are flooding your mind some realistic and others not so realistic. The not so realistic ones can be realistic with enough discipline because nothing is impossible but many just don't put in the work. There will always be something that can possibly stop us but that's not an excuse. Ladies we must stop putting the excuses and let's get to work!